Why We Need Leaders With Negotiating Skills?: The CAPIROCK Approach!

After, over four decades of involvement, in, nearly – every aspect of effectively leading, from identifying and qualifying, to training, developing, and consulting to thousands of actual, and/ or, potential leaders, as well as serving as a leader, several times, and negotiating, hundreds of, both, large and small contracts, I strongly believe, for someone to become a true, meaningful, responsible, effective leader, he must be aware of the challenges, and necessities, of quality negotiating, and using that knowledge, to the group’s best interest! In order to achieve, and learn, how to use, every negotiation, to the organization’s actual benefit (in a realistic manner), I believe and have taught, what I refer to, as the, CAPIROCK method, to make this easier, to accomplish, learn, and utilize. With, that in mind, this article will attempt to, briefly, consider, examine, review, and discuss, using the mnemonic approach, what this means and represents, and why it matters.

1. Customized: Since, every organization, is unique, in some way, and each negotiation, requires a certain degree of individual planning, one must proceed, in a customized way, based on the guiding principles, taught, and learned, from a professionally – designed, customized, leadership training, and planning, program!

2. Absolute integrity: Some, falsely believe, there is some benefit, to claiming certain things, during a negotiation, which, to say the least, stretch – the – truth! While, at some time, there may be, an apparent advantage, in the short – term, to doing this, the only way, in the longer – run, to develop the type of relationship, needed, to achieve, a win – win, negotiations, the negotiator must proceed, with absolute integrity!

3. Promises: Avoid the temptation to make empty promises, and/ claims, which you can’t deliver, because, at some point, that approach, is harmful, and back – fires!

4. Ideas; imagination; innovate; insights: Great negotiators need the imagination, and insights, to perceive and conceive of, create, and implement, the finest ideas, and approaches, to create the optimal results! Instead of seeking the same – old, same – old, and being restricted, by the self – imposed limitations of their comfort zone, one needs to proceed, with a willingness, and ability to innovate!

5. Relevant; results; responsive; ramifications: How a leader proceeds, and negotiates, often, has ramifications, and, thus, we need to let prospective leaders, understand, how essential, the results, are, in the immediate, and longer – term!

6. Outside – box; open – mind: When a negotiator considers options and alternatives, and the needs of the other side, he uses an outside – the – box, open – minded, approach, to show, how there are potential mutual savings, and shared – benefits, for both sides!

7. Character; creative; calm/ calming; clear/ clarify; cooperate; contingencies: Great negotiators show their quality of character, to their negotiating adversaries, by being calm, and clarifying, what you seek! Calming leaders suggest creative options and approaches, in a clear, cooperative manner, and include, contingency clauses, and plans, for whatever, one can conceive – of!

8. Knowledge; keen: It takes self – confidence, training, knowledge, and expertise, to proceed, with keen attention, to the most viable solutions, for the specific circumstances!

We need to create leaders, with the training, and personal character, to take advantage of the CAPIROCK approach to negotiating! Are you fit to be a real leader?

To Negotiate Successfully Perceive Genuine Anger Using Micro Expressions

Glimpsing anger, via the use of micro expressions, is a unique way of gaining insight into someone’s real emotional state of mind. That’s due to the fact that micro expressions are not filtered by the mind, before an emotional act is committed. Thus, the emotions displayed via micro expressions are not contrived.

There are seven emotions expressed through micro expressions: anger, disgust, fear, sadness, happiness, surprise, and contempt.

This article explores the emotion of anger when used in a negotiation. In particular, it explores how anger is expressed, how to detect it, and how to utilize the recognition of it during a negotiation by using micro expressions (note: the same methods of detection and utilization can also be used in your personal endeavors).

Once a negotiator recognizes signals that highlight a micro expressed action, that negotiator attains a huge advantage when interacting with people. When negotiating, the advantage almost becomes unfair. To gain such an advantage, consider discovering and detecting real anger in your negotiations by utilizing micro expressions.

During any negotiation, participants involved in the negotiation will possess and display a wide range of emotions. In some cases, it may not behoove the negotiator that’s angered to express his demeanor, for fear of divulging a hidden position that he does not wish to have exposed. In so doing, he may try to portray a different demeanor in an attempt to conceal his real emotion.

To detect anger by using micro expressions, observe an intense appearance in the eyes (that might be akin to someone staring/looking through you), eyebrows down and together, and a narrowing of the lips. In this emotional state of mind, the other negotiator’s eyes, while focused on you, are also being used as an introspective reflection of the thoughts being discussed. It’s another indicator that the other negotiator is fixated on the thoughts that are angering and confronting him. Once you sense genuine anger, validate your findings by addressing your perception with the other negotiator and the reasoning behind his anger.

Anger can cause the rational process of thinking to be abandoned. Thus, when one is genuinely angered, one does not think as clearly as would otherwise be the case. By harnessing the power of micro expressions, you’ll be able to detect if anger is being used as a tool of evasiveness, or to create ambiguity. With that detection ability as an ally, you’ll decrease the probability of being thwarted by false ploys. This in turn will allow you to be more successful when negotiating… and everything will be right with the world. Remember, you’re always negotiating.

The Negotiation Tips Are…

• Anger serves the purpose of changing one’s demeanor. In a negotiation, you must maintain mental control of your environment. Don’t allow yourself to be manipulated by the false pretense of anger.

• Micro expressions allow you to unearth potential problems in a negotiation. To be successful, heighten your senses when detecting anger in a negotiation.

• Determine the genuineness of anger by learning how to interpret micro expressions.

Personalized Graduation Gifts – Ideas to Select Cheap Graduation Presents

I have talked about some of the personalized graduation gift ideas which you can give to any person that just graduated from law school, medical school, high school, nursing school, elementary school, military school, college, university, preschool, junior high, 8th grade, kindergarten. It can also be given to phd or masters recipients.

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1. Vineyard select wine basket

This gift can be personalized with up to 25 characters of your choice. The gift basket expresses fruit and characters. It contains Washington’s most excellent vineyard yields. It contains wines from Avery lane to make a nice gift for any person that love to take wine. The receiver of this present will benefit from taking the wine together with saraivanov parmesan, artichoke, cheese biscuits, bonbons au chocolate, smoked salmon, camembert cheese spread, rosemary and roasted garlic crackers, dolcetto tiramisu wafer rolls etc. There are two versions of this wine gift basket to select from; they are namely merlot and chardonnay. You can select from any of this bottle of wine to add to this gift basket. There is option to personalize the gift to suit the receiver while buying. You can select the preferred character of your choice to write on a satin ribbon placed on the gift. You can wish the person “happy graduation” through this means.

2. Macadams’ Congratulations Collection

If you need to show congratulations in an extraordinary way, this unique gift can aid you to utter it eight different times. The gift contains toffee peanuts, sugared peach slices, island mix, Jordan almonds, candy berries, Guadalajara mix, jelly beans and sour cherries. These items will taste delicious to the receiver. This will afford the receiver the chance to enjoy the delicious taste of their achievement.

3. Heartfelt Congratulations

When you need to commemorate their graduation, this gift pack is the perfect item to present. It contains blooms of success like solidago, asters, carnations and delphinium. On top of their graduation celebration, you will also see two mylar balloons to let them know that they are on top. The flowers used in this gift pack are the freshest available flowers.