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Glimpsing anger, via the use of micro expressions, is a unique way of gaining insight into someone’s real emotional state of mind. That’s due to the fact that micro expressions are not filtered by the mind, before an emotional act is committed. Thus, the emotions displayed via micro expressions are not contrived.

There are seven emotions expressed through micro expressions: anger, disgust, fear, sadness, happiness, surprise, and contempt.

This article explores the emotion of anger when used in a negotiation. In particular, it explores how anger is expressed, how to detect it, and how to utilize the recognition of it during a negotiation by using micro expressions (note: the same methods of detection and utilization can also be used in your personal endeavors).

Once a negotiator recognizes signals that highlight a micro expressed action, that negotiator attains a huge advantage when interacting with people. When negotiating, the advantage almost becomes unfair. To gain such an advantage, consider discovering and detecting real anger in your negotiations by utilizing micro expressions.

During any negotiation, participants involved in the negotiation will possess and display a wide range of emotions. In some cases, it may not behoove the negotiator that’s angered to express his demeanor, for fear of divulging a hidden position that he does not wish to have exposed. In so doing, he may try to portray a different demeanor in an attempt to conceal his real emotion.

To detect anger by using micro expressions, observe an intense appearance in the eyes (that might be akin to someone staring/looking through you), eyebrows down and together, and a narrowing of the lips. In this emotional state of mind, the other negotiator’s eyes, while focused on you, are also being used as an introspective reflection of the thoughts being discussed. It’s another indicator that the other negotiator is fixated on the thoughts that are angering and confronting him. Once you sense genuine anger, validate your findings by addressing your perception with the other negotiator and the reasoning behind his anger.

Anger can cause the rational process of thinking to be abandoned. Thus, when one is genuinely angered, one does not think as clearly as would otherwise be the case. By harnessing the power of micro expressions, you’ll be able to detect if anger is being used as a tool of evasiveness, or to create ambiguity. With that detection ability as an ally, you’ll decrease the probability of being thwarted by false ploys. This in turn will allow you to be more successful when negotiating… and everything will be right with the world. Remember, you’re always negotiating.

The Negotiation Tips Are…

• Anger serves the purpose of changing one’s demeanor. In a negotiation, you must maintain mental control of your environment. Don’t allow yourself to be manipulated by the false pretense of anger.

• Micro expressions allow you to unearth potential problems in a negotiation. To be successful, heighten your senses when detecting anger in a negotiation.

• Determine the genuineness of anger by learning how to interpret micro expressions.

What really got me most of all about all the works functions I attended, was the incredible cost involved in staging one. The company I worked for at the time employed nearly two hundred and fifty people. All were invited twice a year to a corporate award presentation and dinner.

Each event would start at about 18.00 about two miles away from the company place of work. A hotel that was well used for corporate functions and weddings. It was huge and must have cost a fortune to hire. Our company would take up the entire function wing of the hotel. Rooms would be booked for sales reps and managers that lived too far away to drive back home after the event was finished, usually about 01.00. Each room was £100 a night.

We would eat dinner, a three course affair, at about 19.30. I was told that it cost £18.00 per head on average, and the food was always of a good quality and plentiful. Another observation was that your wine glass never stayed empty for very long. The bar was free, so if you wanted something different to drink, then you were always able to ask for something else. The bar bill alone, over the evening, must have been staggering.

After a hearty meal, with plenty of wine, the awards ceremony would begin. A vast array of glistening crystal awards, presented to the top sales person, best customer service, best team performance etc. I won best sales person twice, and can tell you no expense was spared on the cut crystal decanter. Receiving the award in from of over two hundred work colleagues applauding was an amazing rush. All the awards cost a fortune, but were incredibly impressive. A hired photographer would make sure all recipients were recorded in picture. These pictures would hang on the wall, till the next awards presentation, at random places throughout the company building.

The entertainment would begging at about 21.30. A disco that would play every cheesy track you could imagine. By now many of my work colleagues would be the worse for wear, many senior members of staff also. Things were always in good spirits, and the dancing was something to behold. Various courtships would begin, perhaps they had been brewing throughout the working year, and this kind of environment allowed the “energy” to be released. The bar was always serving, and the drinks would become more adventurous as the night went on. Shots, odd cocktails.

At about 01.00, the DJ would stop, the lights would come on, and everyone would begin to file out the function hall. Some would be going home, in taxis that had been arranged and paid for by the company. Others would make their way to their hotel room, sometimes with company that was not with them on arrival. I would always ask myself, was it all worth the massive expense? I think it was. People had something to talk about and laugh about during the times between functions. Moral for the prize winners was certainly high, and made you want to stay at the top of your game. Another important factor was people being able to let their hair down and enjoy themselves. A good working atmosphere can itself offer higher working results.

Are you buying your partner a Christmas present?

Of course you are! Then what about the dog in your life? After all your four-legger is part of the fur-family and if you don’t want those sad puppy-dog eyes sending you on a guilt trip, it’s time to get shopping.

When you buy your partner’s present, you spend time thinking about what they’d like or appreciate. Do the same with your dog, but don’t just stick to balls or a Frisbee (or if you do, get an indestructible one) – think outside the box with these gifts you might otherwise overlook.

#1: Safety First

You wouldn’t let your child travel unrestrained in the car, so why let your fur-baby? This Christmas give a gift that could save your dog’s life: a car safety harness. These should be comfortable yet strong, and secure onto the vehicle’s existing safety belt system. Look for models that are crash-test certified; to be sure they’ll do the job in the unfortunate event of a collision.

And if you have a large dog that travels in the trunk, consider investing in a crashed-test safety cage. These are sturdy enough not to crumple in a rear-end accident, and keep your dog safely confined so they don’t run off across a busy carriageway.

#2: Memory Foam Dog-Bed

Anyone with a bad back will appreciate the bliss of a memory foam mattress for a good night’s sleep. If you have an older dog, with sore arthritic elbows and hips, then imagine the comfort a memory foam bed could offer. Its supportive properties mean that the dog’s weight is spread evenly and heat retained around those stiff joints. So if you have an old-timer who deserves a little indulgence, this could a special gift that makes a real difference to him.

#3: Kong

There’s absolutely nothing wrong with toys, but give one that counts. A Kong is a wonderful way to keep your dog occupied for as long as it takes to lick out the tasty treat inside. They’re inexpensive, last forever, and are great for distracting dogs that are unhappy at being left behind when you go out.

#4: Dog Backpack

Here’s a present you can both enjoy: a doggy backpack. Think of this as a down payment on weekend walks in the country, where your canine companion carries his own supplies. He’s going to adore spending time in your company; it’s a great way for you both to get fit. So where a regular dog toy is forgotten in minutes, a backpack gives countless hours of fun.

#5: A Clicker

Last, but certainly not least, you’re barking up the right tree with a clicker. If you have yet to discover the positive power of clicker training, read up on the magic of how you can change your dogs behaviour.. This could be the start of a better-behaved dog that looks forward to his training sessions – Now if that isn’t a paw-some gift from Santa Paws; it’s hard to know what is!